Hello my fabulous friends!

What does the word yummy mean to you?  To me, it conjures up images of things that I love…things that bring wonder into my world.  To me…the word yummy defines all that makes me happy.  How do you define yummy in your life?

Now that you have defined what Yummy is in your own terms…let me ask you this…Do you attract Yummy into your life?  I would like to help you learn how.

Attracting things that you want into your life is known to most of us as the Law of Attraction or LOA.  This theory basically tells us that we are in control of what we attract or manifest both good and bad, into our life.  Basically, we receive into our life what we focus on and we will attract into our life people who are where we are.  Think of it this way…like attracts like.

Whenever I think about this concept, I am taken back to the first summer following my separation from Mr. Ex.  I was vacationing at a lake house with family and friends and it was a difficult time for my children and me.  If you have ever endured a loss, you know the feeling…emotionally raw.  That is where I was.  I felt lost and vulnerable.  I was questioning other relationships in my life and wondering how I could connect with people who were strong, motivated, healthy and happy.   What I didn’t know was that I was on the edge of re-defining myself.  A major shift was about to occur in my life…and this shift started to occur as I curled up in a hammock under a big shade tree overlooking the lake.  It all started as soon as I opened the pages of the book, “The Secret” and was introduced to the principles of The Law of Attraction.

It is hard to imagine that who I am today is the same person who felt so lost in that moment.  It is even harder to believe that in reading one little book, my mindset and life changed.  I had learned an invaluable lesson on that day while curled in the hammock.  I had learned that it was up to me to attract what I wanted in my life. I was the gatekeeper to my own manifestation of happiness.  Yummy was on the other side of those gates and I had learned that all I needed to do was swing the gates open and let Yummy in.  Simple…right?

I wish.  Although I learned the concepts…my complete road to Yummy did take some time.  For me, it took more reading and understanding.  You see, I am the girl who reads everything and I often feel the need to over-educate myself in order to really own in my mind that something is of value.  In this mode of obsessive education, I stumbled on an article that hooked me completely.  It increased my understanding of how The Law of Attraction actually works.  I began to value the theory at this point.  Stick with me on this, because if you are questioning this theory…you too, may benefit from what I learned.

Have you ever been in a room full of people talking?  Perhaps a meeting at work or a room full of mothers?  Everyone is talking and the noise in the room is extreme.  Then, you hear a voice call out softly…“mommy”.  Most mothers will turn their heads at once to that word.  We have all done it.  Although the room is full of other words being said…the one word you turn your head to is “mommy”.  The reason we turn our attention so readily in this situation, is a direct result of the tiny control center in our brain called the reticular activating system (RAS).  This part of our brain filters out all incoming information and tags what we have trained it to know as important.  Without getting into the depths of scientific detail…it is interesting to know, that we are in charge of our filtering system or our RAS.  Think about it.  Whenever we focus on something, we then begin to notice that “something” more and more in our lives.  When you buy a new car…one that you have never noticed before, don’t you begin to notice that car is suddenly everywhere?  When you start dreaming of and focusing on how much you want something, don’t you start noticing that everyone has it?   This, my friends, is the Law of Attraction.  When you give attention and focus to something, you actually trigger that tiny part of your brain to tag what you want or value.  So, it is not magical…you do not automatically receive things because you want them.  You simply begin to notice that what you want may already right in front of you.  You also begin to take note of what you want in your life that is not yet available to you.

Taking this one step further, it is important to remember that in regard to relationships, we are also in control of the people we attract into our lives.  Remember my description of myself earlier?  I was in a place where I was feeling bad, vulnerable and insecure.  Because of where I was emotionally in my life, I was attracting those types of relationships into my world.  Again, it is simple…Like attracts like.  It is only when you become healthy and happy that you will begin to attract healthy and happy…and very rewarding relationships into your life.  Keep that in mind always.  Think about where you are and who you are attracting into your world.  If you need to do some work on you, in order for you to be emotionally healthy happy do so.  Take action, while remembering your life is a result of the choices you make.

There are many ways that you can begin to activate your own filtering system or RAS which will help you to re-set/re-train your thought patterns and awareness.  I will share some tools below that you will help you to become more aware of what you want and desire.  These tools will help to you discover and attract what is not in your world yet.  The most important thing to keep in mind while engaging in these activities is that you must begin to focus and pay attention on the feelings you have in regard to what you would like to create in your world.  Your yummy may be right in front of you…you just need to apply focus to find it!

• Vision Boards- A simple and very effective tool.   You simply place pictures of what you love on a piece of poster board.  The key is to take time to really focus on your Vision Board and the energy flow you receive from the objects on it.  Do this often and you will see results!

• Journaling- Take time to journal about things you love daily.  What inspires you?  What do you dream of?  As with the vision board, you must really focus on the energy you feel when you are detailing what you want to create and receive into your world.  I often tell my clients to take time each day to read past entries.  Remember…you are retraining your brain to take notice of what you find important.  Recapturing the feelings you have by reading past entries will do this

• Make Lists- Create one list of what you want in your life or create several.  For some time I had a list that defined my Mr. Yummy.  It detailed everything I wanted in a relationship and all the personality and yes, physical traits I wanted him to have.  As most of you know…he waltzed into my world.  I was healthy and open to receiving and I had trained my brain to focus on what I wanted.

So my fabulous Divas…now you have a basic understanding of The Law of Attraction or in my own terms…now you know how to attract yummy into your life!  Think about using the tools I suggested to propel you into a new place.  If it all seems like too much work…remember this- If you keep giving the same, you will keep getting the same.  You are in control of your life.  Why not take control of your mindset?  For me…incorporating these strategies into my life helped me to really open the gates to Yummy.

I would love to hear what you have to say. Please leave your thoughts and comments below.   If you have created a vision board…we would all love to see it.  Please share with us here as well, or simply email it to me at Dabney@DivaCoachDabney.com.  I will post it for you!  For those of you whom have not yet created a Vision Board and would like to, I will be sharing some tips on how to create yours in my next newsletter.  If you have not subscribed to Diva Tips and News on this page, please do so now!  Remember, my newsletter is the place where I will share all exciting news first.

.Have a magnificent day!

Go! Divas! Go!

xoxo

Dabney